My parents are scared & confused & dont know whats going on?
Written on April 15, 2009 – 3:21 pm | by Drug Abuse Help
Lately I’ve been getting into alot of stuff; abusing prescription drugs (to the point where i dont remeber anything) , illegal drugs, stealing (over 100$ of stuff at a time) , sneaking-out (and bringing people back into my house without my parents knowing) , cutting myself (to where sometimes i shake from blood loss), starving myself (till im tired all the time), over-indulging in food, purposefully throwing up, getting so angry i cant see, and getting so depressed i cant talk. I just wanna know if this is normal teenage angst (like im trying to tell my parents) or its something else
I’m not looking for attention, i havent told anyone anything. I was just curious about other teenagers lives and whether or not they too do the same things.
brenda said:
Apr 15, 09 at 1:47 amNo this is not normal u need to get sum help Tell them n get sum help unless u r trying to kill your self on purpose
mbcrazychick said:
Apr 15, 09 at 8:17 amno i am sorry to tell you that this is not normal. i mean i am a teenager but i dont do anything you do. i know some people who do one r two things you do like cutting and starving, but not all at once. You should really get some help otherwise i can assure you tha you will die …. if you continue this way it is not a question of if you will die from these things it is a question of when.
it might me a physiological thing taht you cant really stop… or is thre something bodering you that makes you act this way?
aida said:
Apr 15, 09 at 10:13 amMost of the behaviors you describe are aspects of "teenage angst" carried to extreme–in some cases, dangerous extreme. It’s not surprising that your parents are scared and confused! This layperson strongly advises that you start with a complete medical check-up from a doctor you can talk to, and go on from there. You sound like a good kid, and I hope you’ll get some help before you take a step that will have a permanent bad effect. Good luck!
cee_bees said:
Apr 15, 09 at 1:22 pmcome clean with the parents-they will know what to do-
if you stay on your current road-it will lead to your early death and your parents will never be the same again.
hailandrain said:
Apr 15, 09 at 1:45 pmNo it isn’t. And you should be seeing a doctor.
I can’t think of the name for stealing stuff but that isn’t normal..let alone cutting yourself as you say.
Please get to a doctor and tell them what your going through if not tell them all of what you just wrote here so you can get some help.
You are self-harming which is far from normal.
_Pamela_ said:
Apr 15, 09 at 2:02 pmSoundslike you have taken normal teenage experimentation to the extreme where it is becoming problematic. Don’t kid yourself that your parents don’t know…they might not know the extent, but they WILL know that something is going on with you.
Why are you doing it? I know that it is fairly common in teenage years to experiment with drugs, develop eating disorders and occassionally try self harming, but for it to get so serious requires some major triggers, so what are yours?
It sounds like you would benefit from some serious counselling so you need to go to your doctor and tell him/her what you are doing and get them to refer you to the mental health specialists in your area to get a proper diagnosis and the right treatment.
Unless you do it for attention, but I don’t know if that is the case with you. I hope that you work out what is making you do these things, and that you are soon able to get some other strategies in place for coping with life.
If you find it hard to tell your parents, write them a note. It might be less painful that way.
It might be normal teenage angst that triggered it, but you need to get talking to a professional about this in order to see if there is anything else at work here.
Cutsil said:
Apr 15, 09 at 5:39 pmUnless this is some sick joke, why don’t you think about it before you steal money and abuse drugs? You gotta get rid of every single of those problems, one by one.
I mean, purposefully throwing up?
Tell somebody who can help you with this, i.e a close friends, parents or a professional.
And about the self-harming, I have a brother that is self-harming, he’s on a good trip to stop harming himself. You can do that too.
Eric_H said:
Apr 15, 09 at 6:35 pmIt sounds like you have some inner turmoil that you’re not talking about ( it’s possible that you can’t even define it yourself), but it’s causing you a lot of stress.
The things you’re doing are all attempts to treat the stress - you’re attracting attention by stealing, you’re cutting yourself to try and switch the problem from mental pain to physical pain ( which is easier to deal with), and you’re doing drugs to try and dull/escape the mental pain.
You should talk to a good child counselor - they may be able to help you define what’s bothering you to the point where you can describe it in detail. Once you can describe it, you can begin to deal with it.
Talk to your doctor and see if you can get a referral to a good Child behavioural psychologist. When you see the psychologist, be honest with him or her - they’re there to help you.
jimbo said:
Apr 15, 09 at 8:16 pmNo it is not normal, you are just a useless piece of trash. You know perfectly well that this kind of behavior is completely outrageous and utterly wrong. OK so you have had your joke or what ever it is you are trying to prove, all you have done is to show the world just how useless you are. Hurting your parents as you have been doing proves what exactly? Come on be a man and tell us all what you have achieved by it. The fact that you are able to spell out all the things that you have been doing wrong, illustrates that you know they are wrong. So cut the crap and start leading a proper life. I get the impression from the way you have written your question, that you are not a fool, so cut it out now. This is not the sort of candy and flowers answer that you were looking for is it, it is the honest and truthfull one though. I see dozens of people like you every week through my law office and you know what, most of them walked the line when the consequences of their actions were pointed out to them by spending time in a police holding pen, so before you become a quest of the Governor of the state you live in, my advise to you is this, and you are lucky you are getting it free. Cut the crap and straighten up right now or you are going to land up in prison if you are lucky or in a body bag if you are not.I can tell you from experience of dealing with others that thought it was cute, like you do, to take the path you have started out on, they all wish they could put the clock back, but they cant you can.
it_s_a_CHOICE said:
Apr 15, 09 at 11:51 pmLemme tell you this: that ain’t normal! You need help, and you need it fast! It doesn’t sound from this end that you are suicidal, maybe you are, maybe you aren’t. Or maybe you are but for not for an already specified reason. It sounds like you don’t even know what is going on yourself, like you feel you are out of control. If there was a reason behind it that you can already realize something tells me that you would have realized it already. But you haven’t, have you?
When my Bipolar started spinning out of control I don’t even think that I had it this bad, but that in no way says that I even had a really bad case. You could be suffering from a form of Bipolar: aka in lame mans terms ‘extreme and/or rapid mood swings or you could be suffering from something else/similar. Remember before delving into the world of mental illness that although it may seem like everything has it’s category the reality is that nothing should be in a category and that mental illness is just as flexible and varied in it’s conditions as so many other things in this world can really be.
My advice: get some help! You have the net on your side, start looking up some mental illness services in your area or ask a friend to help you. Get yourself seen to as to allow this to continue could possible start ruining your life!
Also, and I am very sorry to say that what I am about to suggest may scare you, but please get yourself checked out professionally by a doctor. You may even have a brain tumor. I’m no professional to say that but anyone nowadays with a basic knowledge of things in our society should see that as a logical choice of action as well, as a brain tumor can cause drastic, negative behavior problems as well. I’m sorry if that scares you.