Can someone help me with my little teenage problems?
Written on April 11, 2009 – 3:54 am | by Drug Abuse Help
I’m 16. I started becoming depressed January-May of 2007….I could stand anything anymore by November. I was losing a best friend, my grades were slipping, and I had just been a victim of date rape. I also had very poor self-image. My mom lived on the west coast, so I had the mentality that by moving and "starting over", I’d be fine again. Moving out ruined the relationship with my step-mom and my dad badly. Oh, and when I moved in with my mom? I discovered she has a secret husband. Two weeks after I started school here, one of my best friends was killed in a car accident. I’m still numbed by it i think
Well, needless to say, I had the worst school year of my life. I made no friends (TINY SCHOOL), and my grades never pulled up–I almost failed some classes. I started feeling MUCH better by May, because I began to "control" my thoughts. I also began taking an anti-depressant
The summer was REALLY beneficial to me. I felt pretty good, minus a very bad fight with my brother—which I am still not over. Because of that fight, I spent a month at my best friends house back in my hometown.
I felt optimistic about my junior year. I’m getting A’s in my AP classes and such. Until October, when BOYS started getting me in trouble. There was a guy I really liked, and he used me pretty badly. It hurt, and to think–I was considering giving up my "true-virginity" to him (remember I was raped). I can’t focus on schoolwork. And I think I’m so ugly now. (Oh and my bad acne isn’t helping things).
*sigh* I still have no friends, and all my old best friends are living their lives ahead of me.
I am back to square one. Still have the same self-image and I still have no true hobbies. (I had a passion for volleyball, but for some reason during my depression I gave that up entirely). Sadly, I’ve been overly tempted to abuse drugs…but luckily haven’t gotten that far.
Should I see a professional counselor? (school counselor doesn’t do it)
kyle_d said:
Apr 11, 09 at 2:13 amYes you should see a professional counselor. You are certainly facing a lot of challenges. In fact it seems that you have done a good job in facing your difficulties, however there is a point where we all need a little help. So I encourage you to go see a good experienced counselor.
hooyutoo2 said:
Apr 11, 09 at 2:14 amYour "little teenage problems" are overwhelming. You need some real competent help/advice/guidance (counselor) and you need a true friend just to talk to. I suggest a same sex friend that is close to your age or a little older. Stay away from guys for a year or 2. I will pray for you, you have had a lot in your life.
walking728 said:
Apr 11, 09 at 4:09 amI would either get in touch with your old Dr and tell him what is going on and asked to be put on the same medication again. If he.s not near you, find a new Doctor and go explain. Make sure you know the medications and dosages you were on. If you don’t have the bottles with labels., then call your old pharmacy and ask.
Start playing volleyball or walleyball somewhere. Does the school have a team ? If so try out or ask if you can practice with them. If not there must be some sort of rec program in your town or nearby. Physical activity is helpful in curing depression.
As for your acne my daughter uses proactive which really works. I’m sure you mom or dad can set up the ordering for you.
As for your virginity, there seems to be an unwritten rule that boys/men dump any girl that either they or the girl lost their virginity. Sad but true. I think some one should do a study of whats happens in relationships when a person loses their virginity. I bet the % that are still dating after six weeks is less than 70% and most of breakups occur within 10 days; Interesting research topic,
You’ve been depressed before and recovered. You sound like a reasonable person caught up in some bizarrere sequence of events that are depressing, but I think you know how to handle it.
JOJO said:
Apr 11, 09 at 11:08 amyes..go for it. it may help. just be strong and good luck!
rudyjacker said:
Apr 11, 09 at 12:44 pmSounds like you need to seek professional help. Although a school counselor will not be able to give you the type of therapy you need, they can refer you to the school psychologist. The psychologist should be able to refer you to someone that could help. To me you are suffering from depression.
Things you can try while you are in the process of getting help is turning to the ones that care about you. Talk to your parents, find someone that you can trust. Go to a teacher, asst Principal. It is never good to be alone while you are in a depressed state. But do try to seek some professional help. Also if you are on an Anti-depressant give it some time to work. If you have been on it for a while and you are still feeling this down, get back in to the doctor.
Most importantly if you are suicidal, please seek immediate attention. I can’t stress that enough. Take Care and Stay Strong.
garfs_mom said:
Apr 11, 09 at 6:02 pmYou are such a brave and strong young lady even if you don’t realize it. The fact that you are NOT using drugs proves this. You have had so much to deal with, much more than most adults could handle. You really need to see someone to work all of this out with. Please get help because you are worth it.
Good Luck to you.
Aubrey said:
Apr 11, 09 at 8:07 pmYes, I would. I was taken advantage of the summer before grade 7. and I turned to bad things since I couldn’t talk about it or get help. Now that I’m a freshman in college I am just now dealing with these things since I wouldn’t talk about it or get help.
Go see a counselor now!
ccheykain said:
Apr 11, 09 at 8:35 pmif you are asking yourself if you need a counselor, then you probably need one, even if you don’t NEED one you want someone to talk to, and someone that can help you through your problems… you seem like a very strong person, i’m 15 and also went through a bout of depression, but you went through so much more than me and still managed to get out of it. if your depression is affecting your passions or leaves you with thoughts of anything that is harmful to your health (abusing drugs) i think you should seek help.
hope this helps:)