Legal strategy for birth family interference of our adopted son?
Written on November 11, 2009 – 4:09 am | by Drug Abuse Help
Our 4 year old son is adopted (closed adoption). He has been with us since he was 5 months old. Birth mother lost custody of him due to drug abuse/illegal activity. Birth grandmother was given an opportunity to gain custody of him but said she didn’t want him (had 2-1/2 years to change her mind…this was a very slow process). The birth family knows us due to our presence at the court proceedings & worried b/c our son is black and we are white (but not enought to work case plan.)
Birth grandmother has left voice mails several times (we’re listed in the book) and we haven’t responded due to the inappropriateness of the calls (slurring her words in a few and other times talked about how she wants to bond with her "grandson") Recently, she CAME TO OUR DOOR and rang the doorbell and ran and there was a bag of cards/presents from her family members for my son. (we are donating to child charity) We are somewhat alarmed. We have thought of moving and/or restraining order.Thoughts???
The adoption is final. Our state provides a new birth certificate with his new name and us listed as his parents. There is no worry and no chance of him going back.
We are very culturally aware and culturally active (and not just his culture but all cultures). We have made sure he sees his race in our lives as much as possible. We have him going to a very integrated school and live in an integrated neighborhood. Him feeling comfortable in his own skin is one of our primary concerns with his upbringing.
We have saved all pictures and cards. This is all part of his life and when he is grown, I want him to have the option to have it. They are part of his history. But he is only four and, as his mommy, I only want to protect him.
Not incidentally, they did not want him when he had a heart condition and pulmonary problems and developmental delays. I do wish they would allow us to live our lives in peace.
